Lessons In Falling Blog Tour: Lessons Learned + Giveaway


Hi everyone! Today I'm happy to share with you a lesson I learned back when I was in High School as part of the Lessons in Falling by Diana Gallagher blog tour and the Lessons Learned event pulled together by Spencer Hill Press. Below you can also read a bit about this amazing book that just came out on February 7th and don't forget to watch the wonderful book trailer! Thanks for stopping by. :)
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Lessons in Falling
by Diana Gallagher
YA Contemporary
February 7th, 2017 from Spencer Hill Press
When Savannah Gregory blows out her knee –and her shot at a gymnastics scholarship – she decides she’s done with the sport forever. Without gymnastics, she has more time for her best friend, Cassie. She’s content to let her fun, impulsive best friend plan a memorable senior year.

That is, until Cassie tries to kill herself.

Savannah wants to understand what happened, but Cassie refuses to talk about it and for the first time, Savannah has to find her own way. The only person she can turn to is Marcos, the boy who saved Cassie’s life. Being with him makes her see who she could be and what she really wants: gymnastics.

But Cassie doesn’t approve of Marcos or of Savannah going back to gymnastics, and the tighter she tries to hold onto Savannah, the farther it pulls them apart. Without Cassie to call the shots, Savannah discovers how capable she is on her own—and that maybe her best friend’s been holding her back all along.
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Lessons Learned Event!

Spencer Hill Press is having an amazing promotional event in celebration of Diana Gallagher sharing her own "Lessons Learned" with her readers. Now, they're asking readers to share their own! Below is a description of the event:
"Want to share your own Lessons Learned?? It's easy! Tell us about a time in your life when you persevered, despite a bad situation, and what lessons you learned from that situation. Share it however you like - on your blog, your social media, wherever! Submit your link to the Rafflecopter below and share the giveaway with your friends to win an annotated ARC!"
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Isn't that awesome? So I thought to share my own lesson learned (sorry if it's a bit too long and not that cheerful):


When I was in middle school, I had a classmate in a specialty class who suddenly started losing a lot of weight and there were rumors going around that she was often found in the bathroom throwing up her lunch. I wasn't close to her so I couldn't know for certain if the rumors were true, and I often found myself wanting to approach her and ask if she was okay but I was terrified of offending her. As it turns out, I later found out that the rumors were complete lies which was a relief in itself, but they did a lot of damage during the time they were floating around. This classmate suffered a lot of "concerned" bullying and full-blown bullying from teachers, friends and classmates, people always talking behind her back but no one being brave enough to ask. Including me. She transferred to another school and I didn't see her for a while until we met by chance and talked about everything, including everything that happened in Middle School. (She is doing great, by the way!)

I was a chubby teenager throughout Middle School and my first year of High School, but during my second semester, I decided to finally lose some weight. I asked my mom to help me out and together we worked hard to plan my meals. I cut back from desserts and upped my veggies. I started working out 1-2 hours per day, even waking up at 5 am every day  to walk/run for half an hour before going to school. I did this for 3 months straight and people were starting to notice my results. And the rumors started to spread too. That I was bulimic, that I was starving myself, and other harsh stuff were being said about me. Complete lies, I worked my butt off to lose weight!

The thing is, in a way, I appreciate the concern, but I would have appreciated more for people to talk to me, to ask me, and to believe me when I said I was working out and eating healthily (not starving myself!). I 'suffered' the same thing my MS classmate suffered and it was then that I understood what she went through, what the lack of support this huge accomplishment to changing your habits and doing something for yourself, could cause to one's self esteem. It made me sad for this classmate, for she was around 13 years old when this happened to her, while I was close to 16 and, I guess, could take on more of this "concerned" bullying. Like I mentioned, she's fine now, but I can somehow imagine how hurt she must have felt when everyone spoke about her, to the point of having to switch schools and start over. It was not fair. I wish I could have been there for her and give her the right kind of support.

To be clear, I call it "concerned" bullying because people sometimes believe that they know better about certain situations and decide to have a say in the matter, to hear but not listen and understand. A light example:

Aunt to mom: "Melissa will have such flabby skin after all that weight she suddenly lost." Mom: "She works out every day, reason why she lost weight, that's how it works. You know that."
Aunt: Right *eye roll*.
And repeat. 

Nothing happened suddenly. It may have seemed like that to people but not for me. I worked out hard and did things right and I was never prouder of myself. But that's how some things work when others try to express their "concern", and the best thing to do is to ignore and keep doing what you are set on doing because only you know how much you work for it.

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Whew, there you have it! I had never talked about that in social media but it feels right to share my experience. And now I have the feeling that Lessons in Falling by Diana Gallagher is already teaching me lessons when I have yet to read it (how cool is that?!), but I will surely do it soon right after my current read because I cannot wait to know more about Savannah's story. I hope you all decide to join this wonderful event so we can read about your own lessons learned and of course, read this book! 

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About Diana Gallagher

Though Diana Gallagher be but little, she is fierce. She’s also a gymnastics coach and judge, former collegiate gymnast, and writing professor. Her work has appeared in The Southampton Review, International Gymnast, The Couch Gymnast, The Gymternet, and on a candy cigarette box for SmokeLong Quarterly. She holds an MFA from Stony Brook University and is represented by Tina Wexler of ICM Partners. To learn more, visit dianagallagher.blogspot.com.

3 comments:

  1. That sounds like such a good lesson to learn. Some people will try to bring you down, or will just make comments which are entirely unnecessary. But keep your eyes on your goal, and look to the people that support you. You'll get there :)

    My recent review: http://olivia-savannah.blogspot.nl/2017/01/trapped-in-silver-book-review.html

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    1. Exactly! I learned my lesson by going through the same experience and I'm grateful, even though at the time it was hard. It was great for me to have people that were giving me the right support, as well as my classmate who got her own support at home. :)

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